When this story first circulated in 2015 it did not get the press or time it deserved. Back then everyone could easily dismiss Trump’s bombastic ridiculous comments as just that, ridiculous. He was a joke, a reality personality and giving him more air time was just encouraging to his propensity for bad behavior–oddly enough that still holds true.

Even in my line of work, I am an MSN/RN Lactation Consultant (IBCLC), I think I may have just briefly commented on what an a$$ he was on my business Facebook fanpage and moved on.

Now…this man is our President and I want to revisit his comment about a professional woman needing to pump her breastmilk for her baby and his response of screaming, “You are disgusting” to her face.

First of all, healthcare professionals around the world recognize that breastmilk provides infants with the optimal nutrition they need to grow and develop and in cases where mothers cannot feed their babies directly at the breast, expressed breastmilk is preferred over formula. The US is known for having inadequate family/maternity leave. The lack of support for working moms is one of the many reasons that breastfeeding rates in our country are so low. Rates of initiation of breastfeeding are increasing, as more families realize how wonderful breastmilk is and strive to meet the recommendations of the American Academy of Pediatrics, which calls for exclusive breastfeeding for at least 6 months and continued breastmilk for at least a year. It is the rates of duration that suffer when society does not recognize the importance of maternal/child health. With the debate of breastmilk vs formula long ago decided, many families want to do what is best for their little ones but are unable to overcome the obstacles placed upon them.

The Affordable Care Act enacted Federal workplace guidelines for women returning to work. A copy of the Federal regulations for protection of pumping in the workplace is available here,  FLSA Fact Sheet Pumping in workplace. The sad irony is that these regulations would have been cut with the repeal of the ACA and enactment of Trumpcare…

“When it comes to paid leave for new parents, though, the United States is woefully behind the rest of the world. According to the International Labor Organization (ILO), a United Nations agency, the only other country that doesn’t guarantee paid leave for new mothers is Papua New Guinea, where agriculture provides a subsistence livelihood for 85% of the population (1)”

The lack of support for these families is the biggest deterrent to breastfeeding and Donald Trump’s comment to the professional lawyer he was working with is a prime example of that. Here is a brief explanation about what happened:

“Donald Trump had an “absolute meltdown” when a lawyer requested a break from a 2011 deposition to pump breast milk.

“He got up, his face got red, he shook his finger at me and he screamed, ‘You’re disgusting, you’re disgusting,’ and he ran out of there,” attorney Elizabeth Beck told CNN’s Alisyn Camerota on Wednesday morning. (2)”


Trump seems to be disgusted by womens’ bodies and their functions. Remember when he commented that “There was blood coming out of her eyes…blood coming out of her, where-ever” in his attempt to humiliate Megyn Kelly.  This comment was in response to being asked about how he felt about Megyn’s questioning during a debate. Here is a clip:

Trump’s idea of insulting a woman is to talk about her menstrual cycle—what a classy guy.

Mother of 3


Colts Neck, NJ


  1. U.S. Dead Last Among Developed Countries When It Comes To Paid Maternity Leave, https://www.forbes.com/sites/ritarubin/2016/04/06/united-states-lags-behind-all-other-developed-countries-when-it-comes-to-paid-maternity-leave/#26d1115d8f15
  2. Lawyer: Donald Trump called me ‘disgusting’ for request to pump breast milk, http://www.cnn.com/2015/07/29/politics/trump-breast-pump-statement/


Yesterday in an interview with “CBS This Morning” Paul Ryan threatens the Freedom Caucus and other Republicans with the following statement. “If we don’t do this–he’ll [Trump] just go to work with the Democrats, to try and change Obamacare, and that’s not gonna…that is hardly a conservative thing.”

There are 2 interesting things going on here:

    1. Ryan threatening the Freedom Caucus with the idea that if they cannot compromise and repeal the Affordable Care Act (ACA) and pass Trumpcare/Ryancare, then Trump will have no choice but to work with the Democrats…..GASP–which will result in a more moderate (aka liberal) bill. It is no secret the Freedom Caucus thought Ryan’s original bill was “too generous.” Yes, I know this is hard to believe since the bill seemed to be laced with cruelty and the “rob from the poor, give to the rich” type of mentality. When the majority of American’s, Democrats and moderate Republicans (who had constituents writing, calling and screaming at them at Town Hall meeting) were all still reeling over the slashes, increased costs, reduced coverage and the fact that 24 MILLION would be uninsured, instead of trying to compromise, in the last hours before the vote was scheduled Ryan was pandering to the small minority of the EXTREME right (Freedom Caucus) to make the bill even worse for Americans. Disgusting but true. Ryan is a D-bag and I am coming to realize, he will never “do the right thing.” He is driven by tax cuts for rich, big business and no government spending–at ALL costs. He is incapable of recognizing the long term economic ramifications of his cuts or proposals. He is a short term self-gain guy.
    2. The second and more significant thing happening here is that Ryan cannot begin to fathom working with the Democrats. You can see it in his face. His politics are “Us vs Them”. This was his modus operandi for the last 8 years and it is hard to switch gears but….GEEZ, can you think about what is best for the MAJORITY of Americans. The backlash from this type of thinking will be further divide amongst the Democrats, the moderate Republicans, and the Republicans who live in states where their constituents will be most affected by the repeal of the Affordable Care Act. This could get interesting. Is this the beginning of the end for the Republican party. I alway believed the Tea Party/Freedom Caucus/extreme right would be it’s demise.

I think Senator Bob Corker says it best (by the way he is a Republican Senator from TN).


Ryan opposes Trump working with Democrats on healthcare

WASHINGTON U.S. House of Representatives Speaker Paul Ryan, the top Republican in Congress, said he does not want President Donald Trump to work with Democrats on new legislation for revamping the country’s health insurance system, commonly called Obamacare.


It is very easy to get caught up in the negativity of the times. It seems like not a day has gone by since the campaign and election of Trump that he or his administration has not done or said something that is offensive, ridiculous or just plain frightening. Yesterday, when most Americans were trying to make sense of Nunes’ reluctancy to recuse himself from an investigation into Trump’s administration and Russian interference in our election. Nunes basically screaming, “Nothing to see here” as Putin slips in the back door. OK, maybe you think I am over-reacting and being harsh, but let’s just apply some common sense.

Where did Wikileaks get their hacked intel? Why did they only release Democratic intel? Why did Comey focus on Hilary’s uninteresting emails when he knew Russia/Trump was under surveillance by mid 2016?

Did Russia (aka Putin) play a role in our election?

If there is nothing to hide, why not permit an investigation?

You could smell the stink of a cover up a mile away. Why would Nunes have a secret meeting at the White House with a source he cannot disclose and then hold a press conference basically saying, “Nothing to see here, folks”. Secret meeting at the White House??? How dumb does he think we are? Again, if there is nothing to cover up, why cover it up?

Nunes, I think it is time to recuse yourself; you have brought shame on the House Intelligence Committee, which has been known to be bipartisan, fair and just.

April Ryan of American Urban Radio Networks’ and 20 year veteran white house correspondent, questioned Spicy Spicer about the connection/image of the Trump White House as it relates to Russia but Spicy cuts her off mid-sentence and displays gross dominance over her. He does not even let her finish a sentence and reprimands her for displaying her disappointment over his treatment, by shaking her head as he attempts to refute her.

April, please KEEP PUSHING. We are standing along side of you— #RESIST!

Yes, the same April Ryan that Trump asks to set up a meeting with the Congressional Black Caucus members because—well, don’t all black people know each other?


FBI: Trump campaign, Russia ties investigated, no wiretap evidence found, http://www.cnn.com/2017/03/20/politics/comey-hearing-russia-wiretapping/

What Devin Nunes’s Bombshell Does and Doesn’t Say, https://www.theatlantic.com/politics/archive/2017/03/what-devin-nuness-bombshell-does-and-doesnt-say/520455/


As the TrumpRussia story heats up day by day, Trump attempts to use his old game plays: doubling down on lies, declare it fake news, the blame game, and divert. More and more Americans have caught on to his offensive maneuvers and tricks and have grown weary of his attempts to MANipulate the situation and reality.

Remember when our President publicly accused our last President of illegally wiretapping him via a tweet…

Last week the $hit was starting to hit the fan on Trump’s lie which backfired on him BIG time in two ways:

  1. First, it drew further attention to how unhinged he is. More and more Americans are recognizing in Trump’s POST TRUTH era, pathological lies, ridiculous claims, and MANipulation of the public via tweets are the new norm. The WH tried to put a spin on the accusation. Spicy even said wiretapping was in quotes and suggested we should not take Trump literally or at his word…really? I think we are all coming to that conclusion on our own.
  2. After FBI director Comey’s testimony last week it became clear that Trump and his team have been under FEDERAL surveillance since last Summer. Yes, our President is caught up in a REAL Federal investigation involving RUSSIA.

Next thing we know, Nunes, head of the House Intelligence Committee is holding a press conference….yes, that alone was SUPER strange. Nunes claims that the TrumpRussia ties are coincidental and that Trump and his cronies just got caught up in a bigger investigation and Trump is innocent and better yet,  vindicated because now his claim of actually being wiretapped was true (OK, well, partially but I suggest Obama does not hold his breath for an apology cause’ I don’t think the Don is capable). Talk about a SPIN. If it were not for the fact that Russia interfered with our election and has possible strong ties to the Trump campaign and Presidency, I would almost be impressed with the calculated deception attempted here. Thank goodness for Adam Schiff whose grasp of logic and common sense seems to be in direct odds with the Trump administration. Schiff called Nunes out for his inappropriate behavior.

“But Adam Schiff (D-Calif.), ranking member of the House Intelligence Committee, said that Nunes could not conduct a credible investigation in this manner.

“As to the substance of what the Chairman has alleged, if the information was lawfully gathered intelligence on foreign officials, that would mean that U.S. persons would not have been the subject of surveillance. In my conversation late this afternoon, the Chairman informed me that most of the names in the intercepted communications were in fact masked, but that he could still figure out the probable identity of the parties.” Schiff said in a statement (4).”

Today we learn that Trump’s administration has attempted to block Sally Yates, former Attorney General fired for not supporting Don the Cons immigration ban and now a leading American SheHero, from testifying in the House congressional investigation (1). The letters published by the Washington Post today shows the Trump administration claimed her testimony is inadmissible due to presidential communication privilege (1). No need to worry about that though, because Nunes cancelled the hearing where Yates and others were scheduled to speak. You can almost hear him saying, “Nothing to see here, folks.” —Yup, does not look suspicious at all.

Do you think Trump is afraid of what Yates has to say? I am thinking that is a great BIG, YES!

“Yates and another witness at the planned hearing, former CIA director John Brennan, had made clear to government officials by Thursday that their testimony to the committee probably would contradict some statements that White House officials had made…(1)”

Did I mention that Nunes cancelled the testimony only after Yates’ lawyer sent a response to the “presidential communication privilege” claim basically stating, that communication is no longer privileged because the WH has been talking about it publicly. Will this be another instance where the Trump administrations’ own words come back to haunt them (here is looking at you Stephen Miller, for whom we have to thank for the second “travel ban” being blocked. Miller went on FOX news and reassured the FOX FANATICS that the new plan was just as discriminatory as the original muslim ban, “fundamentally, you’re still going to have the same basic policy outcome”, giving the judge the ammunition needed to shut that ban down [2].)

Spicy Spicer, of course, denied any attempt to prevent Yates from speaking in a press conference. How does this man sleep at night? Day after day of lies on top of lies. I used to feel sorry for him, but now… is this job really worth selling your soul?

Democrat Adam Schiff is still publicly calling for a full independent investigation and wants Yates’ testimony to be included.  Schiff is another hero emerging in the TrumpRussia scandal. You would think Russian interference would be a bipartisan issue; however, Nunes is destroying the reputation the House Intelligence Committee has on being impartial, fair and just.

House Democrats called for Nunes to recuse himself yesterday from all TrumpRussia investigations, claiming he was not an impartial investigator and may be too far up Trump’s a$$. This request came after it was revealed that Nunes, prior to holding his press conference last week, met with a source IN THE WHITE HOUSE that provided him with “proof” that the TrumpRussia thing was all just a matter of coincidence (3). There are a few BIG problems with this:

    1. Why Nunes? What is his role, why is he ignoring his responsibility and obligation as the head of the House Intelligence Committee to protect Trump? What does he have to gain/lose?
    2. Nunes, party of one, decides that what he hears from his “anonymous source in the WH” is so convincing he holds a press conference and surprises EVERYONE except Trump and his administration–nothing fishy about that…
    3. An anonymous source at the WH and we are to believe it was NOT the TRUMP administration…come on, how dumb do you think the American people are?
    4. Let’s assume the information is just a silly coincidence—then why? Why, would you obstruct an investigation that could clear everything up.
    This morning Trump’s response to the growing TrumpRussian scandal; his call for an investigation into Russia….

Yup, Russia and Hillary–he also names Bill and Podesta. DIVERSION, folks. Don’t let this MANipulator fool you. The story is TrumpRussia and I want to hear all about it.

Please call your Congressional representatives and ask them to support an independent investigation into Russian interference in our election and the relationships between Russia and Trump’s campaign and administration.

You can find contact information for your House representatives HERE



1 Trump administration sought to block Sally Yates from testifying to Congress on Russia, https://www.washingtonpost.com/world/national-security/trump-administration-sought-to-block-sally-yates-from-testifying-to-congress-on-russia/2017/03/28/82b73e18-13b4-11e7-9e4f-09aa75d3ec57_story.html?utm_term=.aa402c68d325

2 Comments by Stephen Miller and Rudy Giuliani Cited in Judge’s Decision to Block Trump’s Travel Ban, http://time.com/4703232/trump-travel-ban-stephen-miller-rudy-giuliani/

3 House Democrats Ask Devin Nunes to Recuse Himself From Russia Inquiry, https://www.nytimes.com/2017/03/27/us/politics/devin-nunes-house-intelligence-committee-white-house-wiretap.html?_r=0

4 Key Republican Lawmaker Says Intelligence Was Collected on Members of Trump Transition, http://time.com/4709443/devin-nunes-trump-transition-intelligence/



What do Alex Jones (FOX fanatic and propaganda pusher aka unhinged screamer), Mike Flynn (Trump’s ex-National Security Advisor, and Russia have in common? A pizza parlor and a ridiculous conspiracy theory.

Alex Jones and Fake News Site Info Wars (a conservative site used to push conspiracy theories and a favorite of Trumpsters along with FOX and Brietbart); please watch and try to imagine people believing this ridiculous garbage. Their emotions and tears are even more offensive knowing that they must really be acting. They push fake news and don’t expect them to fact check it. What was their reward? More followers? Accolades? Don’t for one second think this unhinged character has a heart since he also supports conspiracy theories that the Sandy Hook massacre was a hoax/not real  and 9/11 was an inside job:

Don’t know who Mike Flynn is? Well he was DT’s National Security Advisor. Yup, the same guy who coined “Lock Her Up” at the RNC convention last summer (the irony is thick here as his may be facing treason charges). He was also responsible for Pizzagate, a lovely little twitter/defamation of character/business slander/public safety issue, type of tweet.

Here’s Flynn’s tweet from Nov 2016, this is after FBI Director Comey’s interference and resurgence of Hillary email controversy (gosh, remember when people had their panties in a bunch about uninteresting emails) :

This tweet links to a blog post (that he used as a credible news source) from True Pundit with a catchy headline about “..New Hillary Emails: Money Laundering, Sex Crimes with Children, Child Exploitation, Pay to Play, Perjury”. Yup, it did not matter that it was not real or that it was just plain ridiculous—and don’t even get me started on the Hillary email scandal (while Trump continues to use his android phone, unsecured servers and post his rants and outright lies on his twitter account). The Pizza-gate issue was further complicated by the fact that a gunman did go into Comet Ping Pong Pizza, the site of the supposed child sex ring, in Washington, and opened fire claiming his actions were a result of a conspiracy theory he heard from watching Alex Jones.

Edgar M. Welch claimed that he heard the conspiracy theory from Jones, who made a calculated and what I consider insincere apology to the public for his lies and role in Pizza-Gate on Sunday, March 25th; perhaps to avoid being held culpable. Too late! Trumpsters cling to their conspiracy theories like a fly on fly paper. As of Sunday in a pro-Trump rally outside the US there were still some calling for an investigation into the Clinton child trafficking sex scandal, specifically looking to lock Hillary, Bill and John Podesta, Hillary’s campaign manager, up for their heinous fictitious crimes.

On a side note, Flynn’s son, his Chief of Staff, eventually lost his job–wait for it, because he tweeted after the event that there may be truth in the conspiracy theory. “Really, you can’t make this $*** up” is the common theme of this entire election and presidency.

What role does RUSSIA play? What do we know? Russia attempted to interfere with the US election. How and to what extent, well this is where the details available to the public become more sketchy. I hate to say it, but we are counting on you Comey, to bring some clarity to the issue. What most will agree on is:

  • Russia used botnets, teams of paid trolls and networks of websites and social media outlets to target Trump’s fanbase –alt right and fascist sites
  • Their goal was to “erode mainstream media” and get Trump elected
  • Conspiracy theories spread like wildfire in the alt-right world

What we do not know is:

  • What role did Trump play?
  • Did he or his campaign collude with Russia?
  • Did he or anyone in his campaign get paid for services for helping Russia?
  • How dirty is Manafort and Flynn (I am hoping to write more about this; I have a feeling more information will be released soon. Manafort agrees to testify in front of the House Intelligence Committee and Flynn seems to be under lock and key–so I am thinking these two men have something to say).

So who do we ultimately get to “thank” Pizza-gate and the other conspiracy theories for????  The people who made it up, the people who spread the propaganda, the ignorant who believed it?



You can’t have a conversation about Trump without talking about his HAIR. He has been clinging to that comb-over his entire life and until recently the unnatural orange-yellow hair color that did not compliment his orange complexion. It looks like someone was able to convince him to dial back on his quest for blond youth and embrace a more natural lighter color; unfortunately, they could not convince him to get a better cut.

After all this time is no one able to convince this man to cut that mop—well, should I be surprised? If no one is able to convince him to keep his petty comments and ridiculous lies off of twitter, why would I think a good haircut would be an easy sell.

Why does Trump cling to the longer hair, constantly forcing people to authenticate that it is real—well, any good psychoanalyst would probably point out a possible relationship to potency and armor.

Here are some of his best “hair fail” moments:

GQ gives Trump a makeover and I must admit, these small changes offer big improvements. Too bad we can’t makeover his personality, intellect and sense of human decency.


This is probably a good time to remind everyone that I am no expert on politics. Is anyone really? I do have a double major in Economics and International Relations but at this point in my life I would call myself a concerned citizen. I truly believe that the passing of the ACA was the best thing that happened for Americans and the healthcare system in the last decade. You could say that universal, quality healthcare is a passion of mine.

Yes, there is room to improve the ACA but not in the way Ryan, the Freedom Caucus or Trump wants. Ryan’s entire identity in the House is based on his opposition to the ACA. What became entirely clear was HIS plan was simply a masquerade for tax breaks for the rich, basically everyone else could go F’ themselves. Here is a clip from March 18, 2017 where he talks about dreaming of the Medicaid cuts he would make since his keg drinking days. Yup…dreams about sticking it to the poor disenfranchised—that about sums his character up.

Trumpcare Timeline (as best as I can put it together):

    • The ACA was passed and the Republicans spend the next 7 years trying to repeal it but never manage to positively contribute to changing it or to come up with a better plan.
    • Trump runs on campaign platform that promises repeal with replacement of “better healthcare” at lower costs for ALL (yup, that was a big fat alternative truth). ‘“My first day in office, I am going to ask Congress to put a bill on my desk getting rid of this disastrous law and replacing it with reforms that expand choice, freedom, affordability,” said Trump on Oct. 25, a day after he St. Augustine speech, in Sanford, Florida. “You’re going to have such great health care at a tiny fraction of the cost. And it’s going to be so easy.”‘
    • The America Health Care Act is introduced but Trump does not want to call it Trumpcare (he distances himself from the get go), so from henceforth we shall refer to it as Trumpcare.
    • The bill begins to be known as the “Repeal and go F’ yourself” plan, as the general public starts to catch wind on actually how bad the plan is.
    • The Congressional Budget Office (CBO), aka nonpartisan scorekeepers,  releases their analysis of the proposed plan and it is not good. To sum up the highlights: 14 million Americans would lose coverage in the first year, eventually 24 million would be uninsured, and premiums would rise as much as 20% (they would eventually fall over time as more and more Americans were priced out of the market or died [a little nursing humor there]).
    • Proposed Federal budget that further promotes the “go F’ yourself” mentality with cuts to crucial social services and other supportive services—with only increases in defense spending, border patrol and immigration services. Many begin to catch on that Trump truly does not care about his fanbase which would be the most hurt by the healthcare repeal and the budget cuts.
    • EVERY healthcare agency speaks out against Trumpcare.
    • The House does not have the votes and they know it. Thank you, to all the town hall attendees, protesters and citizens for reaching out to your Congressional representatives in support of the ACA. Your contributions are the reason some Republicans broke rank and voted in support of their constituents.
    • Despite the fact that the bill was not ready and did not have the votes needed, Ryan, Trump and Republicans push for Thursday vote–the anniversary of the ACA, a final F’ You to Obama and Trump’s “many enemies” aka those who oppose and did not vote for him.
    • Instead of making positive changes to improve care for everyone and obtain more support, Ryan doubles down and makes the plan worse for Americans by trying to appeal to the far right Freedom Caucus. There would be no analysis of these proposed changes by the Congressional Budget Office before the vote.Will the moderate Republicans and the Freedom Caucus split? At this point unless the Republicans can separate themselves from the Tea Party, Freedom Caucus, Koch bros, I only see further divide in America. The majority of Americans oppose Trump and definitely oppose the Freedom Caucus (this sounds like another post is needed; I thought the Tea Party would destroy the Republican party long ago).
    • Ryan runs to WH to let Trump know they don’t have the votes (first of all, how did he not already know, the writing was on the wall the moment that Trumpcare was introduced).
    • Rumor has it Trump wanted to push it to a vote anyway–why? I imagine his vindictive nature wanted a public record of those who opposed—so he could brand them as his enemies. That seems to be a go-to move of his.
    • In the end someone must have reasoned with him and explained the bigger picture of the more public loss and the bill was pulled.
    • Trump gives press conference and declares the loss “very close” (very close??? What planet is he on?).

  • He then goes on to blame the loss on the Democrats saying they had no Democratic support—–uhmmmmm, doesn’t the Republican party control the House and Senate. This is where the discussion about incompetence of the Trump admin typically takes place.
  • He then goes on to say, “the best thing we can do politically speaking is to let Obamacare explode”. Yup, there you have it folks–his next move. Do you think he will make necessary changes to the ACA. Do you think he will improve the healthcare system? NOPE, remember narcissists are driven by their vindictive nature….he will let it explode, then he will claim “I told you so.”

I am not gonna lie, yesterday felt like a victory over evil but there is no time to gloat or relax, we must continue to #RESIST.

Enjoy this tweet from Senator Bob Menendez.

Mother of 3


Colts Neck, NJ


The CBO Deals Paul Ryan’s Health-Care Plan a Major Blow, https://www.theatlantic.com/politics/archive/2017/03/the-cbo-slaps-a-red-card-on-the-republican-repeal-bill/519357/

Fact-checking Trump’s ‘repeal and replace’ Obamacare timeline, http://abcnews.go.com/Politics/fact-checking-trumps-repeal-replace-obamacare-timeline/story?id=46360908

The Health Care Bill Has Failed. Let the Finger Pointing Begin, https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2017/03/24/us/politics/the-health-care-blame-game.html?smid=fb-nytimes&smtyp=cur&_r=0

In Dropping Health Vote, Trump Swallowed Need for a Showdown, https://www.nytimes.com/2017/03/24/us/politics/trump-white-house-health-care.html?hp&action=click&pgtype=Homepage&clickSource=story-heading&module=b-lede-package-region&region=top-news&WT.nav=top-news

GOP rep on voting on ObamaCare anniversary: ‘Who cares about that?’, http://thehill.com/policy/healthcare/325540-gop-rep-healthcare-bill-negotiations-rushed-too-focused-on-conservatives


During the election and definitely post election, I have seriously contemplated how and why anyone supported or still supports Trump. How could they overlook his severe character flaws, why weren’t they morally offended by many of his actions, why didn’t his ridiculous claims, brags, and chants scare the hell out of them? Why couldn’t they see the emperor was naked?

I think there are a few key differences between Trumpsters and the majority of Americans who were opposed to Trump. Many Americans particularly those in rural middle america were hopeful that Trump would “Make America Great Again.” Thinking that America was already great but recognizing there was always room for making it better made me wonder what were these Americans thinking?  I tried to put myself in their shoes but economically, socially and logically, I could only find proof that we were better off. Way better off than when Bush was in office. I did not vote for Bush and many things he did made me unhappy but I never hated him with the vitriol Trumpsters hated Obama (I will save that post for another day). It seems like Trumpsters did not rely on data and facts, they were driven emotionally. I wonder if any Trumpsters self reflect to examine what emotions do drive them? Can they recognize the possibility that they may be driven by racist, white privileged, homophobic, xenophobic, climate denying, self-improving, misogynistic, or self serving motives. I live in an area in NJ that is very Republican. My friends and neighbors are good people who supported Trump. Could it all be about a tax break for them? Is a tax break worth the destruction of healthcare, our social system and the eventual economic strain that Trump’s policies will have on our economy? Outcomes, the big picture, recognizing “you don’t know what you don’t know” should be factored into all big decisions but the writing seemed to be on the wall with Trump. After all why would anyone think this reality TV personality would all of a sudden be Presidential.

America was great and our economy was significantly stronger that it was 8 years prior. With unemployment at an all time low, with improved healthcare coverage for all Americans, with the social advances our country had made with tolerance and acceptance of same sex relationships, marriage, religion, ect….why did so many Americans HATE that. Hate it enough to elect Trump (I will save the rise in hate and intolerance for another time as well, as it deserves its own post).

I think the big differences between Trumpsters and those opposed Trump are:

  • Empathy, the ability to put yourself in someone else’s shoes
  • Education
  • and passion and willingness to CHANGE

Trumpsters are the naysayers. The co-workers who bemoan change and try to  sabotage new initiatives. You know the type–the Negative Nancies, the Constantly Complaining Chris, the “I like it the old way” and “if it ain’t broke don’t fix it” type of people. Change is uncomfortable and evolution of a society, advancement of a society requires CHANGE. Making something better requires work, effort and a willingness to do so.

For example, coal is DEAD. The coal industry is not coming back. Investing more time and energy in this industry is not efficient or economically sound. No, I am not saying SCREW YOU to anyone who worked or lost their jobs in this industry. That is why I support social services for all, so we can help and lift up anyone who needs the assistance. What I am saying is that time, money and education needs to be allocated appropriately. Investing in change. Investment in education. Give people the skills they need to participate in this ever changing world.

We can not stop change as much as Trumpsters would like that–better yet, they would love to see a post WWII boom but going back in time is not possible and is also ridiculous–we must respect that change happens whether we want it to or not and we can adapt and evolve as those changes occur or we can dig our heals in and fight it…a fruitless effort. You cannot hold back change.

I came across this video on Facebook this morning. It is a speech JFK gave and it is as if he gave it to us for just this moment.  Please take the next few minutes to watch it; I promise you will not regret it.

The speech was given in 1963 at Vanderbilt University and I have included my favorite pieces below, may they resonate with you and guide you in your #RESISTANCE to all cynics and skeptics.

“This nation is now engaged in a continuing debate about the rights of a portion of its citizens. That will go on, and those rights will expand until the standard first forged by the nation’s Founders has been reached and all Americans enjoy equal opportunity and liberty under law.

But this nation was not founded solely on the principle of citizen-rights. Equally important, though too-often not discussed, is the citizen’s responsibility. For our privileges can be no greater than our obligations. The protection of our rights can endure no longer when the performance of our responsibilities each can be neglected only at the peril of the other.

I speak to you today, therefore, not of your rights as Americans, but of your responsibilities. They are many in number and different in nature. They do not rest with equal weight upon the shoulders of all. Equality of opportunity does not mean equality of responsibility. All Americans must be responsible citizens, but some must be more responsible than others by virtue of their public or their private position, their role in the family or community, their prospects for the future, or their legacy from the past. Increased responsibility goes with increased ability. For those to whom much is given, much is required.”

Of the many special obligations incumbent upon an educated citizen, I would cite three as outstanding: Your obligation to the pursuit of learning; your obligation to serve the public; your obligation to uphold the law. If the pursuit of learning is not defended by the educated citizen, it will not be defended at all.

For there will always be those who scoff at intellectuals, who cry out against research, who seek to limit our educational system. Modern cynics and skeptics see no more reason for landing a man on the moon — which we shall do — than the cynics and skeptics of half a millennium ago saw for the discovery of this country. They see no harm in paying those to whom they entrust the minds of their children a smaller wage than is paid to those to whom they entrust the care of their plumbing.

But the educated citizen knows how much more there is to know. He knows that knowledge is power — more so today than ever before. He knows that only an educated and informed people will be a free people; that the ignorance of one voter in a democracy impairs the security of all; and that if we can, as Jefferson put it, “enlighten the people generally,” “tyranny and the oppressions of mind and body will vanish like evil spirits at the dawn of day.” And, therefore, the educated citizen has a special obligation to encourage the pursuit of learning, to promote exploration of the unknown, to preserve the freedom of inquiry, to support the advancement of research, and to assist at every level of government the improvement of education for all Americans — from grade school to graduate school.”

Mother of 3,


Colts Neck, NJ


Copy of full speech, http://www.americanrhetoric.com/speeches/jfkvanderbiltconvocation.htm


“I could stand in the middle of 5th Avenue and shoot somebody and I wouldn’t lose voters,” Trump said at a campaign rally here.

Bragging about committing capital murder and that his fanbase would still support him, says a lot about the narcissism of this man and the stupidity of his “loyal followers.”  Trump made this claim at a campaign event in Iowa and despite the offensiveness of the statement he was elected anyway. Despite his severe character flaws, lack of moral compass, ignorance, arrogance, and lack of experience–he was elected. So maybe he was right..

Mother of 3
Colts Neck, NJ



Trump: I could ‘shoot somebody and I wouldn’t lose voters’, http://www.cnn.com/2016/01/23/politics/donald-trump-shoot-somebody-support/


Six feet-two inches tall, star athlete, no past relevant medical/surgical history—-5 deferments and bone spurs to the feet, that have since corrected themselves without treatment, and we have an official DRAFT DODGER. Now, I am not here to judge Trump on his draft dodging and MANipulation of the system. I am here to judge him on his public comments against those who did serve.

“He was a war hero because he was captured,” Trump sarcastically told host Frank Luntz during the 2015 Family Leadership Summit. “I like people who weren’t captured.”

How could any veteran, any family that had/has relatives who served, or any person with a good conscience vote for this man? How did he get away with this truly offensive comment? Well, how did he get away with anything in his life—-a self inflated sense of self worth, white privilege, and lack of accountability for everything.

Mother of 3


Colts Neck, NJ


Donald Trump’s Draft Deferments: Four for College, One for Bad Feet, https://www.nytimes.com/2016/08/02/us/politics/donald-trump-draft-record.html?_r=0

Trump mocks McCain’s military service: ‘I like people who weren’t captured’, http://thehill.com/blogs/ballot-box/gop-primaries/248424-trump-mocks-mccains-military-service-i-like-people-who-werent